Reading has always been one of my favorite go - to activities, and that's why every time the opportunity to do a book review comes by way I never hesitate.

I had the privilege of doing a review of the book titled Christ-centered apologetics written by the prolific writer and renowned author Joel furches, He actually sent me a copy of his book and am really thankful for that.


The book Christ-centered apologetics revolves around the defense of the Christian faith.

It begins by chronicling why Christianity is facing one of the biggest onslaught of all times from reactionary atheism (atheists), it also outlines the incidents that have led to the rise in modern atheism and how this has in turn led to the boom in apologetics (defense of the Christian faith).


More than ever before Christianity is being faced with fierce criticisms from atheists and scientists. A challenge that seems to be getting worse by the day . Unfortunately, most Christians do not possess the requisite knowledge to answer some of the Burning questions being thrown at them by these radical atheists.
Joel furches in this book seeks to help arm and equip the Christian with relevant facts that can help him/her in the defense of his/her faith as well as strategies the Christian needs to apply when tackling these issues.

This book also bridges the gap that seems to be widening between Christianity, history and science. The writer used evidence from documents, history and prophecies to provide answers to some of the Burning questions Christians have been posed with.


Overall a great read
Great writing skills
Amazing interlinking of relevant information and a must read for every Christian, because knowledge is power.


You can get the book on Amazon by clicking here.

In the weeks after my Mom passed, our Executive Director at work, was having to say goodbye to her father. I remember walking into her office to let her know I was there for her and to give her some comfort and support. I had all these things I wanted to tell her, but the only thing I could get out between the sobs was, "Be kind to yourself." Four simple yet powerful words. These words were spoken to me often while my Mom was dying and they made all the difference in the world. I'm not one to give myself grace. I'm extremely hard on myself and I don't know when to stop or slow down.  It made me feel validated and if I'm being completely honest, I know those words saved me. I'm not quite sure where I would be if I wouldn't have taken the time to grieve and deal with my emotions as they came. Being kind to yourself sounds so simple, but it's far from easy when you have an extraordinary amount of pain in your heart. The impact grief has on your whole body-emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally-is substantial. It wasn't always easy making myself a priority, while caring for Kona, and being a wife, but I did the best I could to give my body what it needed.


I went for walks.
Read books.
Took long baths or showers.
Went for drives.
Talked with family and friends.
Enjoyed time in the sun.
Painted my nails.
Went to group counseling.
Did yoga.
Treated myself to coffee or lunches out.
Took time to be by myself.
Wrote in a journal.
Visited my Mom's grave.
Prayed and prayed some more.


For anyone who is losing a loved one or who recently has, I urge you to please be kind to yourself.  Show yourself love, acceptance and grace. Please know you are amazing, what you are going through is trying and not meant to be fixed in a day, week or month. It will take time and please take all the time you need, for your heart is broken and your world is shattered.
You are in my heart and I'm sending you all my love and support.
XOXO


Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
Colossians 3:12

Written by Erin Roberts
www.theeverydayevents.blogspot.com

There's always that time in everyone's life when it feels like the world has ground to a halt, and the earth has stopped spinning on its axis.
You know !!! that time when it feels like Nothing "wants" to happen. So, you're literally dragging yourself through life, bored, confused and clueless.

I was once at that place. I was at home for four years, sick and drained of life, looking at the door but unable to go through it.
Obviously, I had loads of free time at my disposal, so what did I do with it?
I read an entire library of books.. Literally!!

Maybe you're a fresh graduate looking for a job, or you just lost your job,a retiree or a stay at home mom with kids who have started school, whatever it is, as long as you have some free time at your disposal, You can actually put it to good use. Make your free time a fruitful time :) what do you say ?

1.TAKE A TRIP: If you have the means, take a trip, visit new places, Know your world, meet new people, make new connections, make new acquaintances. You sure would learn a thing or two in the end.

2.FURTHER YOUR EDUCATION: you can actually take classes, music classes, online courses, French or skill acquisition classes.
learning never ends.
Take the opportunity and improve on your profile, boost your resume. it will come in handy when the time comes.

3.READ: reading is one of the most productive things you can do with your free time. read a book or two each week or however you can, Some of the world's most successful people attribute their success to consistent reading. It Will improve your communication skills, make you more informed, broaden your horizon as well as improve your vocabulary.

4.BECOME AN EXPERT: you can spend your free time acquiring a skill of your choice. You can also spend it perfecting the skills you already have, try to become an expert at your hobbies/ talent. Like they say, when preparation meets opportunity success is imminent.

5. LEARN A LANGUAGE :I am using my free time to perfect my French and Arabic. You could do the same. You'd be glad you did.

Any more suggestions lovely people?

Henry Ward Beech said, “The first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day.”
How apt. Your morning is a very essential part of your day and creating the right habits in the morning will start you off on the right foot.
Here are a few great habits That can help you start your day on the right note.

WAKE UP WITH GRATITUDE : No matter how bad the economy is, always wake up with a grateful heart. Be thankful for the gift of life. It's always a privilege to see a new day.

PRAY /MEDITATE: when you wake up in the morning never forget to take a few minutes to meditate and give thanks to God who keeps you alive.


WAKE UP EARLY : early birds have been known to do much better in life than night owls. Some of the most successful people in the world are early birds. Research has shown that people who wake up early are more proactive. Also early birds have more time on their hands and are happier.

EAT BREAKFAST : your breakfast is the most important meal of the day, don't skip it. Your brain needs fuel to function and that's exactly what eating provides, it also helps your overall performance for the day. And if you think you loose weight by skipping breakfast, think again, you will only end up very hungry and end up overeating.

LISTEN TO INSPIRATIONAL MUSIC OR READ AN INSPIRATIONAL BOOK: starting your day with an inspirational song or an inspiring book is a great habit. It will help condition your mind positively and give you a great outlook for the day.

TAKE A GLASS OF LEMON WATER : squeezing lemon into a glass of warm water with a few drops of honey every morning is a habit you ought to develop, because it will help regulate your bowels in the morning. it also aids digestion.

PLAN YOUR DAY : they say if you fail to plan, you plan to fail, so make sure you have a clear cut definition of what you intend to achieve in a given day, and as much as it lies possibly within you, implement it.

SNACK ON WALNUTS : instead of snacking on pastries, or chips try to make a habit of eating walnuts. Walnuts are known as the king of nuts and they are incredibly healthy. They help flatten your stomach and leave you with a thinner waist line.

EXERCISE : but of course! Always take a few minutes in the morning to burn off the stored fat. A short bout of exercise just before breakfast is a great idea.

Ever heard about "turmeric" ?
I bet you have. And if you haven't, where on earth have you been?
This natural spice has gotten quite the rave in recent times and rightly so.

For starters, Tumeric is a root which when dried and ground is used as spice for food. It is also known for its numerous health benefits.
It aids digestion and Relives pain.
It has also been used in treating a variety of conditions such as
jaundice,
menstrual problems,
blood in the urine,
hemorrhaging,
toothaches,
bruises,
chest pain.
The list is endless. Way more than 5 reasons actually.
We never run out of tumeric at home, my mom makes certain of that ( lol.)

So how can you use tumeric powder
to cook and what kind of food can you use it in?

It's really simple
For one, you can drink tumeric as tea, it tastes nice. You can also add it to your tea if you don't want to drink it directly.

Add it to your stew or food toppings.

You can add it your rice dishes, whatever type, be it jollof, fried, coconut or any other.

You can add it to your soup

It's so much like curry powder, so it also helps in food coloration, to give that lovely yellowish color.
It can literally be used for any kind of food..
Just remember not to over use it, excess intake of tumeric does have some side effects.

Like they say everything in moderation, including moderation.



So, what ways do you use tumeric to cook and in what kind of foods? Please use the comment box and share your knowledge :)

Life has taught me a lot, But I want to share just 25 of them with you. (I have tons up my sleeves)
I have learnt Some pretty good stuff
, Some pretty hard stuff
And some things i am still yet to make sense of.

1. People change.

2.Things are not always as they seem.

3 Life is not a bed of roses.

3.Do not put your trust and confidence in man.

4. Be consistent. It pays.

5.Nobody is going to hand over anything
to you on a platter. You want something, go out and get it.

6.Dreams won't come true if you don't make them come true.

7.Happiness is a choice.

8.Success is not for everyone.

9.When things are working out, everyone wants to be your friend.

10.When life gets hard the travel team gets a little bit scanty.

11.Courage is contagious.

12. smile,  it's your best accessory.

13.Family is everything.

14.Pursue your purpose relentlessly.

15.Love people regardless of whether it's easy or not.


16.Money is scarce. You will work REALLY HARD to get it.

17.Reading is one of the most rewarding things you can do with your time.

18 Time is the most precious commodity in the world. Not money.

19. Some people are toxic, stay away from them.

20.Talk less and do more.

21.Don't spend too much time making plans, get busy.

22. Not everyone will like you. People will hate you for no reason. Learn to deal with it.

23. practice makes perfect, hard work pays.

24. Life is short make the most of it.

25. Love God, love people. Be the best you can be.

Kindly use the comment box, drop a life lesson you have learned and would love to share with others.

Hey guys!
I am so excited! I have been nominated for the sunshine blogger award by this awesome lady, shashi. She owns a lovely blog called scribblesnpebbles. Can't thank her enough for nominating me. :)

Incase you are wondering, The sunshine blogger award is an award given to bloggers by fellow bloggers. It's a great way of recognizing and encouraging bloggers who they consider inspiring and creative.
Once nominated, the blogger is required to write a post in which they:

*Thank the blogger who nominated them and link back to their blog.

*Answer the 11 questions asked by the blogger who nominated them.

*Nominate 11 other blogs and give them 11 new questions to answer.

*Notify your nominees and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post.

QUESTIONS ASKED BY SHASHI FOR HER NOMINEE:

1. Why is blogging important for you?
>>Blogging is important to me because it gives me an opportunity to express myself wholeheartedly. I think of it as my own little space in the world.


2.When did you start blogging?
>>I have been on and off actually, I started blogging in 2014 casually,  then I started officially in February 2016 but then  I stopped and started again in June 2017. :)

3.Have you monetized your blog?
If not, have you have plans doing so?
>>Yes I have, I have Google adsense on my blog.

4.How often do you travel?
>>Well, I rarely travel, but trust me, I do have plans and a bucket list of places I would love to visit soon.

5.How do you spend your weekends?
>>I attend rehearsals and go to church for the most part. Then I spend the leftover time with friends and family.

6.What do you do when you are blogging?
>>I just stay comfortable and try to get inspiration from everything around me.

7.Are you a full-time blogger?
>>No I am not. I am a part time student and a professional singer.

8.What is your favorite book?
>>Blow fly by Patricia Cornwell

9.What social media do you use for your blog?
>>I use Facebook, LinkedIn, Google plus and instagram basically.

10.How often do you use graphics in your blog?
>>Not often really.

11.What do you love the most about blogging?
>>I really love the fact that you can earn from your blog and in fact it can serve as a full time job. And I can't wait to start smiling to the bank.

MY QUESTIONS FOR MY NOMINEES

1. Where are you from?
2.when did you start blogging?
3.what or who inspired you to start blogging?
4.How has your blogging journey been so far?
5.whats your niche?
6.Do you have any regrets since you started blogging?
7.why did you choose blogging?
8. What's your best post since you started blogging?
9. Have you started earning from your blog?
10. What else do you do besides blogging? 11.what do you find most challenging about running a blog?

MY NOMINEES FOR SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD

Womenlite

On the other side of depression

Sunburnt Aloe

One day at a time 

Abhinav uniyal

I will not live in vain

Healthy Living

The Christyle blogger

Mental monologue 

Sky Phoenix Rayne

Cassidy's adventures

I finished reading a book yesterday, not an ebook, a normal hardcover book. That would be the 5th one this month. I think I am making progress.
So, when was the last time, you dropped your phone and every other form of technology or electronics for over two hours not just because you have a dead battery but deliberately, just to read a book or have a proper conversation without taking a peek or a selfie every two minutes?

A friend mine was saying that he's concentration span is so short, it's as short as the space between his thumb and index finger . so, he spends half of his day scrolling through his feeds.
does that sound like you too???

Technology has it's perks but it also has it's downsides. and methinks that the downside is more than the perks. *what do you think *

But seriously, I strongly feel we need to reduce the amount of time we spend on our smartphones, it's just Too much.
Except you work online, cut it down a little

There's the online world and there's the real world.
The real world needs your attention a lot more.
The moments we have to share with the people around us won't last forever,
Drop your phone for one minute
*And have a proper conversation
*A healthy relationship
*Enjoy reality
*Get inspiration
*Soak in the beauty of the world around you.

You can thank me later. 

Its been almost 12 years since I spent most of my time obsessing about weight, about food, counting calories. But I wouldn’t say I felt free until about the last four years from the bondage of myself.

When I was 18 I moved from the comfort of my parents’ home to go to school in Orem, UT at a college there. I spent many a summer in Utah, as we have plenty of family that lived there so I figured I would feel comfortable and it wouldn’t take long for me to adapt to a new area and make new friends. The only problem is, I am extremely shy and not good at making friends. I also think I had some deep rooted insecurities. As a result, I looked in all the wrong places to try and fill that void with someone or something . I met a boy. And I used him as that someone to help me fill that void and get my security from. Slowly over months, he turned into someone who didn’t build me up, but tore me down. I really struggled emotionally after the relationship ended. I no longer had him to fill that void, even if what he filled it with was damaging. I remember almost immediately the eating disorder really took shape. I had slowly been eating less but nothing too intentional. But when I fell into the disease, I fell hard. It wasn’t but a few months before my weight dropped almost 30 pounds, to below 100lbs. And I just keep restricting my food until I eventually would only allow myself to eat 200-300 calories a day. I obsessed about calories. I went to the gym every day. Working out for hours. I worked at Wal-mart in the bakery and went to school full time. It didn’t take too long before my eating disorder consumed most of my life, and I found myself having to back down on school classes because I just didn’t have the energy any longer. I finally had people urge me to seek help. I was confident I could over come this on my own. I visited the nurse at the school I attended weekly as well as the school counselor, weekly. But I only got worse. I eventually started binging and purging as well. My parents tried to get me admitted into an inpatient facility as my health was declining very rapidly. I would say this was all within a matter of 2 years.

The next year I had to quite school and not much after that I found myself missing much more work because I didn't feel well all the time.  was going to have to quit my job because I could barely get out of bed any longer. I remember I had mostly stopped driving because I always had that cloudy feeling when you are in extreme exhaustion. I always felt confused, and couldn’t focus. One morning I woke up and just knew I was going to die from this eating disorder. I had a choice to allow this disease to take everything I had worked toward and everything I knew i could achieve, or fight back.I finally found the courage to accept the help from my parents to be admitted into an inpatient treatment facility.

By this time I had such little self esteem. Since that initial abusive relationship ended, I found myself with more abuse, put my self in situations I would never have imagined just a couple years before. I honestly felt as though I deserved the abuse. It just felt like the pain and anger and hurt was so deep that I would never heal.
I had stopped weighing myself months before I was admitted. I couldn't handle the pain it added each day I got on the scale. One of the first things the doctor asked me when I was admitted was how much I thought I weight. I honestly thought I was maybe 105 lbs. He wouldn't tell me how much I weighed, but he did tell me I was under 80 lbs. Today I think about that, and I cannot even believe I weighed that little. I shopped in the little girls department, because all other clothes looked huge one me, but I couldn't see that when I looked in the mirror. When asked if I saw a problem with the fact that my clothes were made for young girls, not woman in their 20s, I would mentally justify it because the clothes were cheaper and I was a poor college student.

Fast Forward 5 months, I was released from treatment and moved in with my sister temporarily. I now physically looked like a normal healthy woman. I had some weight on me. And could mostly make good food choices on my own. But I was scared out of my mind. How would I ever fit back in with the real world. How do I face real world problems without resulting to my eating disorder.

For many years after this I felt like I was just surviving. Using other things to numb my pain and put my thoughts behind me. I still sought out abusive men, and put myself in horrible situations because I frankly just didn't care about my self.

March 13th 2013, I found myself in a place so miserable and dark I knew I needed to do something different. I spent most of my free time learning what it looks like to love myself. Figure out what my faults were and how I could change the things about myself I didn't like. I looked for the things in my life that I could be grateful for. That is when I really started recovery. Even though I didn't act out in my eating disorder addiction for all those years after I got out of treatment I didn't spend any time loving who I was until that day in March four years ago. I wasn't learning from my mistakes and looking for my strengths. .
Today, I still focus on affirmations daily to remind myself that I am worth it. I still remind myself of all the wonderful things I've accomplished and the loving people in my life. I am finding myself each and every day. I keep showing up to life every day and always look for ways to be of service to those around me and how I can help other woman who may be suffering from the same perpetual cycle of low self esteem. I know I hurt a lot of people and took advantage of a lot when I was in sick, and I am always looking for ways I can now contribute to society as opposed to burden it any further. I love where I came from because it has built me into the person I am today. I wouldn't change a thing from my past. I only hope that sharing and talking to others will prevent one person from diving to the depths depths that I went to before I could see what my life should be. Happy, Joyous and Free.



Michelle Turnbow

www.myamazingselfie.com

mturnbow@myamazingselfie.com

Last night I decided to take another look at the story of the good Samaritan in the Bible.
I know you are wondering why!?

I did that because of something I saw on TV.
A couple of volunteers were serving food (really nice food) to some hungry and homeless people in Syria. I really admired the enthusiasm with which they were doing this great service.
What really got my attention were two little cute boys of about 10 and 9 years who were serving alongside the other grown-ups. They were pretty excited about the work they were doing .

I was really inspired!! I was grinning like a bobcat, I felt like reaching out to them and give them a bear hug. And I thought to myself "that's the beauty of life" . Being able to put smiles on the faces of others.

Just like that good Samaritan.
Whatever opportunity you get, to do good. Make the most of It..
Irrespective of whether the person is your friend or relative. Even if it's a complete stranger. Be kind to them.

You don't need to be super rich or influential to leave an impact in this world. The impression you leave in the hearts of men is the best influence you can have.

Just like the levite and the priest in that story, so many people become successful and forget to reach out to others, forget to give back.
They climb to the top and kick down the ladder they used to get there, denying others the opportunity of getting to the top with them.
That's a very boring and sad way to live, don't you think?
The beauty of life is in helping others.

Throw away your title
Forget about our differences
Become deliberate about doing good to someone this week.

Volunteer at an NGO
serve in a church
Visit the orphanage
Help a widow or an elderly person
Say a kind and encouraging word to someone
Inspire and motivate someone
Let's make the world a better place one day at a time.

God bless you!!!

Last week I was at a place where I needed to make a decision to either continue doing a certain thing or stop and make a fresh start.
 I am sure we all get to that point where we are faced with this life defining question, do I stand and fight for what I want, what I believe in or do I let go?

Do I go out of my way and make an extra effort or do I walk away?

 I am not being specific to any particular circumstance or situation because this question cuts across every sphere of life. school, business,relationships, work and even when it comes down to what you believe in.

sometimes the right thing to do is to stop and make a fresh start, to change course, to start a new chapter because that's what is best for the situation, and other times  the solution to a problem would be to keep putting in more effort and to persevere.

 it can get really confusing to know what is best for each situation. There is no clear cut answer. However there are ways you can determine and know what to do under  each circumstance,

You can ask yourself these questions
Why am I doing this?
What is the benefit in this?
How necessary Is it?
How hard have I worked?
 Have I given it my best?
Is it worth my time?
Is it worth doing?
Is this thing crucial to my existence?
If I stop now would I feel at peace with myself ?
 have done my best?
 if I stop now would it be a mistake ?
 Have I really tried enough..?
The list can go on and on

to each situation it's own set of questions. The most important thing being pointed out here is that, as a person you must understand that there comes a time when you must Stand and fight for what you want, against all odds, throw away pride, laziness, apathy, ego, etc because failure to do so would lead to regret.

 Look within and always endeavor to know where to draw the line.

Whatever I am today is largely the result of people who invested in my life. Whether they were singers, pastors, friends or Guardians,and whether it was through songs, books words or actions they all have shaped me into who I am today.
In every sphere of life there are people who have gone ahead of you, Find these people, follow them faithfully and learn from them.


In case you are wondering "why" this is so important, let me tell you. Firstly, This is one thing most successful people have in common-"mentors "

*Mark Zuckerberg had Steve Jobs
*Warren buffet had Benjamin Graham
and the list goes on.....


1.Whatever it is you want to do in life, bear in mind that you can't do it alone. You need someone to encourage and equip you. Someone to motivate and stir you up. You need someone to model the how for you.

2.Everyone needs a role model, a person whose life reminds you of everything you want and ought to be.

3.Mentors can be connectors. Playing a dual role of teacher and connector, a mentor can provide access to those within your industry that are willing to invest in your company, offer their skills and expertise.

4. Mentors have the experiences you can learn from to prevent making the same mistakes beginners make. Starting a business is challenging enough, so if you can skip doing things the hard way, why wouldn't you?


5.Mentors are free, which makes them priceless in more ways than one.


As Benjamin Franklin said, "Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn."

Great ideas and leaders have a common enemy- "the critic" .
I am not one who patronizes the critic, I rarely concern myself with what people think. If I believe what I am doing is right, I simply go for it.

Why?

Because I have learned that no one is immune to criticism, it comes with breathing. People will definitely criticize whether you act or fail to act, so I'd rather be criticized for doing something than for doing nothing. It may not always be easy to overcome the critics, but it's worth it.

Caustic comments and demeaning stares are all part of the life of a courageous man.
Do you know that Billy Graham was called a cultist when he started ministry? No matter who you are or what you do, not everyone is going to agree with you!

If you think everyone will be happy just because you started doing something great, you're wrong!
There are so many people, even so called friends who would want you to fail and so the moment you begin to venture, to live outside the box, they will begin to attack you and throw stones at you. Hey!! Pick those stones and build a wall! Be careful who you listen to, not everyone deserves the right to speak into your life.

READ ALSO >>DARE TO TAKE A STAND

So many people are afraid to pursue their dreams, start up a business and have a life because of what people will say. People must say, so to avoid criticism you must be willing to say nothing! Do nothing! And be nothing.

Teddy Roosevelt said "far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat".

A Chinese student made an opening speech at her graduation ceremony at the University of Maryland where she said "
Five years ago, as I step off the plane from China, and left the terminal at Dallas Airport. I was ready to put on one of my five face masks, but when I took my first breaths of American air. I put my mask away. The air was so sweet and fresh, and utterly luxurious. I was surprised by this. I grew up in a city in China, where I had to wear a face mask every time I went outside, otherwise, I might get sick. However, the moment I inhaled and exhaled outside the airport, I felt free".
And the whole of China came for her head.
We are at a place right now in the world where everyone seems to be caught in the wake of hypocrisy, sycophancy and bootlicking.
If my opinion does not agree with the popular opinion, I could be crucified for it.
We are surrounded by people who don't do anything unconventional.

There is a need, no! a cry out, more than ever before for the rise of men and women of courage. People like Abraham, Moses, David, Abraham Lincoln ,Martin Luther, C. S Lewis, D. L moody
People who remind us that the motto "safety first" leads to hell.
People who inspire us to jump! Because the net will appear when we do. People who are not afraid to pack their bags and leave their father's house to a land, some unknown land.

Courageous people travel light and make maximum impact. They often take the road less traveled. Courage does not mean the absence of fear though, but responding inspite of fear.
The tombstone of a man who fails to take a stand will read "what could have been".

People of courage make a difference in the world. Instead of cowering to the pressures of this dysfunctional society, become a force. Break out of the box. Boxes are designed for storage and Shoes and not for you. Know what is right and do it. Dare to have principles and stand by them.


Some of the most impactful people in history were people who could have easily ended up on the shelf of mediocrity, but they dared to do the unconventional.
Abraham Lincoln was a failure before he became the President. Don't settle! soar.

An old adage says, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
If you live courageously you may loose friends, because the crowd thins out when you decide to live outside the box,, but the view is worth the climb.
You can leave a mark and make an impact but you must have the courage to do it.

Billy Graham writes, courage is contagious. when a brave man takes a stand the spines of others are stiffened.

Dear one,

Do you know TY Bello was once a hairdresser who picked money from the floor?
Do not despise the days of little beginning. Every thing great starts small. Every great man was once a little child.
If you despise one you'll never see two.
Progress starts with a step and as you continue to build on it relentlessly , you'll see growth.
Stop looking down on yourself and the little you have in your hand , that little thing you have is your seed and like we all know , every good seed has the potential to grow and bear fruit, if properly nutured and fed.
A great man i know (david Abioye) defined big as , small plus small plus another small, till infinity. Addition is what leads to completion , nothing completes without being added to.
Your Little beginning is the best way to start, that way you will lay a solid foundation and learn the tricks of the trade.
Fan the flames of your passion , career, business , give it qulity attention and watch it grow.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step , take that step and keep moving.
The world is waiting to hear your story.!!!

Xoxoxo💜💗💖

Thanks for reading💞

When people are making a journey and the vehicle they are traveling in gets faulty, they would "normally" get out of the car,and try to fix it, if they can, if they can't, they would look for help from people around, and if there is none, they would hitch hike, whatever it takes to just keep moving. It would be an aberration to stop and stand by the way side aimlessly waiting to die, just because your vehicle got bad. Won't it?

And so it is with life, until you get to your destination just keep moving forward. Martin Luther King Jr said if you can't fly, run, if you can't run, walk, if you can't walk, crawl, whatever you do, keep moving forward.
Roadblocks don't mean dead ends, there are mere obstructions and if you can look beyond them you would see the road that lies ahead.

Never stop living until you breath your last, never stop trying until you close your eyes in death, never stop growing, improving, attempting. After every and any disappointment, find the courage to pick up the bits and pieces of your strength and keep moving forward. Be it a heartbreak, job loss, nervous breakdown, financial crisis, unforgettable experience etc, no matter what it is don't throw in the towel, You could try a different approach but don't ever consider stopping or giving up.

God doesn't give up on us, why then should we give up on ourselves. After the fall of man in the garden, he didn't give up,he could have, but he devised a plan to bring us back to him through his son and in the course of history it has been a constant battle to keep us by his side. But he has never stopped loving you and I.
Same old,same old "quitters never win, winners never quit". cliché but true.

Last Sunday was love Sunday in church and as you can imagine, it was quite awesome. You should start coming to my church, lol. We had lots of issues to talk about, trust youths.
one of the issues raised was whether you could marry someone you don't love as long as you know that it's God's will for you, or if you would rather stick with chemistry whether or not God's will.
Well, I was an onlooker, trust me I am not really one who loves to speak publicly, by the way what do I know. however, I was soaking up all the opinions that were flying around and I knew I had to talk about it on my blog. (a blogger gets inspired by everyone and everything, don't blame me)

I learnt a lot though, some people wouldn't marry someone they have no chemistry with or aren't physically attracted to, while others said If it's God's will count me in, no matter no matter. All good and fine.

As an individual and more importantly as a Christian (if you're not a Christian, this might not make sense to you)
I believe in love, chemistry, physical attraction et al but trust me when placed beside God's will, those things don't stand a chance, God's will Trumps them all. I know it's probably one of the hardest things you might have do. Because God's ways are not our ways literally!

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Here's why I will go with God's will upon clear conviction, love can't sustain marriage, love fizzles away over time and when the storms of life appear I don't believe that love can carry you through it. don't you see how our celebrities keep on divorcing. I am sure there was love somewhere with the bradangelinas but time and chance happened.

God is our creator, he knows what's best for us, he's the manufacturer he knows all the details, he made the manual and expects us to follow it, if we want to have the best out of life. if he says jump, just jump.
Trouble will come in marriage any which way but when there's a conviction that God directed you to make the decision, you can rest assured that you will whether the storm.

Finally, on the issue of hearing from God,I know some people don't even know if it's possible to hear from God and some can't discern when he's the one speaking, you are on your own, better start praying now so that your dull ears can receive revival Lol.

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I have a little friend who is "hyper" friendly, she's just eight but she literally initiates conversations and friendships on a first meeting. When we first met she walked up to me and asked me "what is your name"?" "my name is ify", I replied, completely astounded at her guts, but I tried as much as I could not to show it. And that's how we became a pea in a pod.

She's a cute little angel, sweet and really friendly. Over time I have watched her talk to a couple of other people who don't find her as interesting as I do, and don't really give her the attention she gets from me and a few others. I guess she's learning more about life( sorry sweetie, that's life finally)

This makes me reflect on life generally. It’s actually impossible for everyone to like me. What one person wants me to do, another person might want me not to do. Not everyone will like me, but not everyone matters, so I shouldn’t let it bother me.


Not everyone you meet is going to like you, Don't get offended. It doesn't in any way reduce your worth. it's not going to make you richer or poorer, prettier or uglier. Some people will not see the "big deal" about you, they will see you as just another human living on earth. Learn to Deal with it.

Not everyone is going to appreciate your gifts and talent, don't waiver, keep putting in more effort. You are not the first and you sure won't be the last.

Not everyone you meet will be willing to help you. Some people will be so uninterested in the things you value the most, they might not even understand why and how you derive pleasure from the things you do. To them it might seem like a complete waste of time. It's completely normal,there are people who have been strategically positioned by God to help you until you meet these people keep calm and keep moving forward.

Not everyone you meet will encourage you, there will be people who will be so keen about the things you do like "kilode" !! While some will be so passive and indifferent like "what's your name again"? this shouldn't deter you in any way. Keep the fire burning.

As you go through life, bear in mind that not everyone belongs in your life. And when you meet people who are not necessarily relevant to your purpose, don't be bothered by the way they will to react to it. Cut them off quickly before they poison your mind and disrupt your focus.
Those who need to be in your life will come and stay and will ultimately help you become better.
P S: don't forget to appreciate them. These people don't come easy.